Sperm

Sperm is, in essence, a seed!  From seeds we get lovely things....like flowers, vegetables, trees...and tiny little humans.  None of those wonderful joys get to choose who plants them. Let's look less on the daisies and roses, the pines and oaks and focus on the those tiny people.  A sperm cell, or gamete, which we'll now call it, normally swims it's way to join another of the female persuasion and they form a child.  The origin of the word, gamete is from the Latin and Greek words meaning husband and marry.  These two words have absolutely nothing to do with the word father and even less with the term dad.    Just for clarification, Dad has absolutely nothing to do with the word sperm either. That would all be scientific and "gametically" correct...(versus grammatically correct which is a blog for another day.)

My big, fat point being.................Sperm does not equal Dad nor should it,  not emotionally or legally.  Dad is the one who helps pay the bills, carpool, change the diapers, teach life's lessons, kiss the boo boos, read the books, watch the movies, plays hopscotch, attends the tea parties, rides the bikes, teaches about the great outdoors, loves unconditionally and does it without remorse or a court order.

Anyone who lays a hand on a child for the purpose of hurting them, screams for them to "shut up," fails to keep a clean, healthy environment, never mentions a super report card, gives a mere candy cane for a Christmas gift, forgets holiday pick ups, has never attended a teacher conference, recital, soccer game or concert makes no attempt to remedy his anger issues is not a Dad, not even a father but merely a donor.

Nearly 10 years later, it's time to give this child a choice.  Our juvenile court system is a joke!  I realize that more and more folks in our illustrious welfare system continue to pop out deductions and entitlements for the services they can obtain.  Free housing, vehicles, phones, food, health care and more.  I also understand that the court system is inundated with these children and their creators. I understand that to the court, "we're" just a number and therefore get treated and passed along in the process to keep it running smoothly.  Not all fathers (and Mothers too) have the right to spend time with their children.  So, the court's pathetic attempt to seek answers is to appoint law guardians for the voiceless majority....(sad but true.)  I'm not sure how these guardians (and I use the term lightly) are compensated but I'm sure that's their bottom line.  Once again, the child is not the number one priority.

Well to this Grandma, it's time to get your judicial heads out of your asses and advocate for those who can't. Listen to these kids.... some may be programmed but most are not.  They're all terrified of saying the wrong thing and making somebody unhappy.  What child should have to feel like that?  My granddaughter crawled into my lap and said, "Let's go to bed Grandma. I've had a long and painful day!"  It just shouldn't be :-(